I am so busy taking care of my daughters and working that I had to hire a part time helper in Singapore where I moved to. My new boss often asks me to work long hours, so when I do get home, I need to spend time with my two teen girls. I do have some free time on the weekends, and that would not be possible if I did not hire someone to help out. I have had no interest in getting married again anytime soon, and this was the only way I knew how to bring balance to my life. It is working out for me and the girls quite nicely.
My first marriage was not a good one. He was mentally abusive, and I took too long getting out of that situation. I felt fine before I married him, but I didn’t really know how to interpret those signs as easily as I do now. After we married, he grew worse. I felt trapped for some time because we were legally married. I tried to stay and fix things for as long as I could, but I had to finally wake up and realize that I couldn’t fix who he was. He is the only person who can do that, and he just did not have the ability to see who he really was.
On the day that I told him that I wanted to divorce him, I packed three suitcases for me and the girls. I left immediately and got a nice apartment for the three of us. However, no longer having a partner meant that I needed to get a better job. I did that, and I make a lot more money now. That extra money comes with a lot of responsibility and extra time needed. I do all that I can to make sure that I’m there for my girls when I can, but I have to have help to do that.